Counselling for Couples in Toronto

For over 30 years, Ingrid has been helped many hundreds of couples and individuals. Couple counselling is uniquely based on acknowledgment of particular features of individual clients and their relationships. Cultural similarities and differences are noted and respected, as is need for autonomy. Ingrid's belief in love, long term relationships, and her genuine compassion for the joys and struggles of relationship make her work easy to accept by couples, since her counselling style, and commitment to counselling with empathy, and genuineness warmth, is unmistakable.

Ingrid writes: "I have had very substantial counselling experience with couples, have supervised the work of other counselors, and I have received supervision from various highly respected psychotherapy and couples counselling teachers. Over the stages of a couple's relationship, characteristics change, as do the needs of the individuals. Sometimes I am helping clients to find solutions to their difficulties of family life, or other couple bonding transitions. Examples also include; separation or divorce; sexuality and its many complexities; including, gender and identity. Most important is to learn to make sense, not just in the meaning of a relationships, and its repeating patterns, but also to understand and make sense of your range of emotions in a couple,, what triggers them, and what actions and self-management strategies can decrease chaos, and increase your capacity for joy."

"Let's discuss an interesting example in a couples or marriage relationship, transactional viewpoint. "Projection" is a common problem - reading something into the other’s words or actions. It is usually wise to take a step back, and reconsider before assuming a meaning that appears to be small or petty. The couple can do well by remembering that the love and support for each other are still there. Each cares, and is deeply committed, invested in the other’s happiness, well-being, and fulfillment."

"The power dynamic in a couple's relationship is a major shifting dynamic. It has been said that "To have a relationship of equals ... requires a sharing of power, a relinquishing of a power position". With respect to cultures where the authority with the marriage is unequal, there too, each partner needs to have a voice. The power role must have a voice for their vulnerability, and submissive role must have a voice for their requirements and significant perceptions. You also must be able to take it. Progress is indicated by a decrease in "hiding" of your skills, knowledge, or beliefs. Each of these can make a positive contribution, even if not immediately apparent! Learning how to exchange this kind of information most often leads to wonderful transitions. Although, in the midst of change, you may feel confused, lonely, or bewildered, do not despair! This kind of discovery and communication can open you to learn much more about yourself, and about your beloved. You will find strengths you did not know that you had, learn the "power for your vulnerabilities".

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Counselling for Couples in Toronto,
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